THE SINGLE PERSPECTIVE

There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. 35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction. 1 cor. 7:34-35 (NKJV)

Sometimes it can be hard to view your singleness in a positive light when compared to this world's double standard. I can list all the negative views here, but I won't to spare the emotional damage it can cause. If you're a single you've heard them all before. No need to repeat. Today, I want to help you to see the BEAUTY of your singleness! 

This perception can only come from the Lord and His word.
Before I begin, I would like to share my story with you for those of you who don't me personally. Now, I won't bore you with great detail of my past experience. That will make this post into a book (and I wouldn't do that to you)

MY STORY
 In 2007 I told the Lord Yes to His invitation of singleness. I didn't understand fully what I was saying yes to back then, but today I do, and I wouldn't change it any other way. 

It was hard, and wasn't easy, but it got easier as I grew in Him. My twin sister got married and a couple of years later so did my older brother, and so for years, I was STILL being compared to them (just like any other middle child). But just like a broken record, the Lord kept repeating the same message to my heart and spirit thru different ways: "You're story is different. You're story is special. Trust Me." Years passed, even when others have walked out my life He still stood beside me. He taught me intimacy with Him thru experience, cultivated a likeness of Himself in my heart, and a discipline of hearing His voice. He taught me how to love Him.

Today, I know fully well, not only who I am in Him, or know when He speaks, or where He has purposed me, but I can also testify and let you know, that it is VERY MUCH POSSIBLE to be SINGLE and yet, still be fully satisfied in Jesus! Forget what this world says! HE alone is our satisfaction! He is our FIRST husband! Only HE can love you the way you desire if you just let Him!  

That's my background in Singleness in a nut shell. I can definitely understand and relate to the season you're in, and I would LOVE to give you some sound encouragement on one of the verses He has used one year in my season. You may have heard it before, or come across it on accident (which I believe it was by purpose.)

THE SINGLE WOMAN
1 cor. 7: 34-35 (click here to read verse) Paul compares the unmarried and married woman. He says that the married woman is concerned with the distractions of this world and how she may please her husband. But, the unmarried woman (or the single) cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy in both spirit and body, or what pleases Him! Another way to view this is that the single woman has MORE time to for her relationship with Jesus! It is just HER and JESUS! 

PREPARATION. 
The married woman (even if she is a woman of God) has divided attention. Her cares are for her husband and her relationship with Jesus. Not that this is a bad thing. There are many women of God I know that are rocking this position! But, one MUST be ready to step into that role! One MUST first be prepared! And guess what! As a single, God is teaching you and taking you thru stages you need to become ready to rock that position as well! 

CAN YOU ROCK IT?!.

If it's hard to be fully committed to the Lord, hear the Lord speaking for yourself, cover yourself in prayer in times of spiritual warfare, or fully love Christ with out a shifting heart when unexpected turns happen, you may not yet be ready to rock that godly wife position. There's still preparation needing to be made. 

• How can you be committed to your husband if you're not committed to Jesus first?! 
• How can you cover your husband and kids in prayer, if you're not equipped to cover yourself in prayer? 
• How can you fully love your husband, if you're not first fully in love with Christ? 
• How can you hear what 'Thus says the Lord' for your family, your household, if you're not able to first hear Him for yourself? 

Get the picture?!

SEASONS CHANGE.
 If you are called for marriage, the time you have with the Lord by yourself is a season! The season will change. One day, it wouldn't be just YOU and the Lord. It'll be you, your husband, kids, AND the Lord! Enjoy the season why you have it! 

DON'T MISS OUT.
 Sometimes, we become so consumed of our future and the could be's or should be's that we become discontent, and impatient. We become so distracted that we miss out on the BEAUTY that is right in front of our faces. We miss out creating beautiful memories with the Lord, and possibly start regretting that we didn't embrace that previous season once the new season has begun. Singleness and Marriage could be those seasons; only if you let them. Marriage is stepping into another season with the Lord. There will be new experiences, new people, new opportunities, and more. 

But Right now is the season of singleness. Embrace THIS journey! THIS season! THIS GIFT, this OPPORTUNITY you have in the Lord! Let Him become apart of your life. Let Him become WHY YOU LIVE! 

DON'T WAIT. 
What is that one desire that keeps calling out to you, but you keep it on the back burner because you want someone special to celebrate it with? Do you have a desire to travel? TRAVEL! Do you have a desire to start a business? Start it! ANSWER THE CALL! Maybe, it's a call the Lord placed in your heart to fulfill and celebrate with HIM! ENJOY THIS SEASON! Because, once you're married, you won't get it back. 


Vision: I am reminded of an opened vision that the Lord gave me about transitioning into that new season when it comes. I pray it blesses you in the way He has intended: I was outside, dancing with Jesus. It was AMAZING! Spins, twirls, everything. All of a sudden, He motioned to a guy who was standing behind Him, and He let him in to dance with me. 

This fella was so sharp and attractive. What attracted me most about him was his heart for the Lord. But at the same time we were dancing, I felt guilty (an emotion not given from the Lord) and I kept looking back reaching for Jesus, while He smiled and steps back in to dance with me, assuring that it was okay, and that it was time, it was what He had prepared my heart for so long, and to trust Him. So I let him back in. I surrendered in my heart to the Lord, and then we danced again. 

This brother had moves to sweep me off my sweet, he could lead, and it was as if we were the PERFECT fit. As we were dancing, Jesus was smiling and laughing as He saw us together, proud of His work, and us coming together brought Him GREAT joy like gifting a child they always desired every Christmas and finally getting it. 

Then, as we stood and began talking, Jesus He came up, and placed His hands one on my shoulder, and one on the guys' (my husband) and He breathed upon us. I felt Him step inside of us. And I knew He was affirming what He was doing. No longer was it just me and God, or just him and God. It was US and God, and it felt amazing!!!

IT WILL ONLY INTENSIFY. That vision was Jesus reassuring me that once he came along, I would know and it would be okay, and our relationship in Him would only INTENSIFY! Until then, He is preparing both of our hearts to receive that good gift, and preparation for the spiritual warfare that would come with it. 

EMBRACE THIS SEASON.
We must remain focused and satisfied  in Christ! One day, you will know HOW to rock that godly wife position! But right now, you're in this current season for a purpose. Someone in THIS season needs you! Right now, your relationship with Christ IS the focus! Embrace THIS season! Embrace THIS journey! Embrace THIS opportunity you have in Christ!

Let's talk about it!!  

Now it's your turn! What are some positive ways you've come to experienced that's helped you to see the beauty in the midst of your singleness? Share it below!! Would LOVE to see and hear the encouragement you can share to your sisters?

Are you still having a hard time to view this season in a positive way? Maybe, have some questions, or need a little clarification, more encouragement after reading this post? Please comment below! Or feel free to email me anytime yogurljennyspeaks@gmail.com

*Can't wait to hear from you soon!*

Love you always,
your sis in Christ,

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